Yesterday was ‘best friends days’, so I thought what better time to celebrate friends, than today in my blog. For me I have had different types of friends over the years. When I was a child my best friends at school were Diane and Elaine, we met in primary and we stayed friends all the way through school, Elaine is still one of my closest friends. I also had a lot of great friends from dancing, there was a group of six of us and we were a pretty tight group and we saw each other away from dancing too. I had a very happy childhood and a big part of that was because I had such great friends who just got me; who laughed with me, looked after me and gave me a confidence in myself.
When I left school and went on to college all my friends went to different colleges or studied different courses and as a result I didn’t enjoy my time at college because I didn’t have those friends around me. I still had the same friends outside of college and we went to parties and had our first experiences in pubs and clubs together and that was great but I felt like I was living a double life. It made me consider the value of friends in a way that I’d never done before.
By the time that I left college and started working, I was dating the boy who would become my husband, so to a degree my friends took a backseat for a while. I still saw many of my childhood friends but just not as much as I had before. Looking back now I suppose my ex became my best friend, until he wasn’t and I began to need my friends more and more again.
My next group of friends came from working, I’d had many years working for myself and not really working with people but when I began working in education I was fortunate to work with some amazing people. I still meet up with my best friends from my first school and I was bridesmaid for one of my great friends from my second school.
The next significant change in my life was my illness, I couldn’t have asked for a better response from all of my friends, bar the odd one who disappeared, they have been fantastic. Over the past few years I have leant on and valued my group of friends more than ever before and I count myself very fortunate to have such a strong group of loyal and supportive friends. So when asked if a have a ‘best friend’ I’d struggle to give you one person, I count myself lucky to have many, as the saying goes ‘friends are the family you choose’.